Any other AS Transwomen scared that you’ll be socially Forever Male?
Are there any other transwomen on the AS spectrum out there? I’ve never looked for a medical diagnoses on either, but I’m connected to both as deep parts of my identity. My older brother has been diagnosed with Aspergers, so at the least I see myself as a fellow-traveler to folks with autism. I know one other translady who has a very similar situation to me (her dad’s an aspie) and she’s having a real hard time too. I just wondered if there are more of us around the internet?
Since I’ve been transitioning, I’ve felt like I’ve had to learn social cues all over again. It feels like highschool again. It’s been helpful that I could watch cis and NT women and copy their habits and manners of speaking, but it just feels like there’s always a wall there. There’s a point that I can’t copy them quite believably and I think I trip and fall into the uncanny valley. I feel like there’s this performance of femininity that I really love and sometimes I feel like that, but I get such awful performance anxiety about everything. Maybe I shouldn’t try to pass for either…
And no one has said it out front but whenever I mess it up it just feels like I’m so MALE. I don’t think that other transwomen keep carrying male privilege with them, but I can’t control the words that come out of my mouth sometimes so I find myself being paternalistic or speaking for other people in really gross ways and I hate it. Anyone else have this same experience?
Upcoming documentary film on disability and sexuality!
Official announcement from grassroots disability justice performance project on upcoming documentary film
Sins Invalid: An Unshamed to Beauty in the Face of Invisibility (aka “Sins”) is a San Francisco/Bay Area based performance project that incubates and celebrates artists with disabilities, centralizing artists of color and queer and gender-variant artists as communities who have been historically marginalized. For the last five years, our performance work has explored themes of sexuality, embodiment, and the disabled body to sold-out audiences.
Sins – The Film
We have reached nearly 4,000 people through live Sins Invalid performances. But we’ve consistently heard from people who can’t make it to the Bay Area that want to experience Sins. We’re proud to say that in conjunction with the Aepoch Fund we’ve almost finished making a 41-minute film that reflects our groundbreaking performance work and weaves interviews of artists and co/founders alongside unreleased performance footage to serve as an entryway into the absurdly taboo topic of sexuality and disability.
With this film, we can magnify our message that ALL people and communities are beautiful and valuable. Imagine how many more lives and communities would change if people engaged in that simple message! And, we still need you to premiere this film!! Visit us at http://www.kickstarter.com/projects/dancersgroup/sins-invalid-an-unshamed-claim-to-beauty.
What We Have and What We Need
We’re in the final stages of production. We are committed to completing the film – so committed in fact that we are donating personal resources to move it forward. You know how artists stretch a dollar to make $100 worth of creativity happen. We’re stretching but your partnership will premiere this film!
We are raising $15,000 through the online platform Kickstarter. It will help us reach out to new communities – but there’s a catch. Kickstarter is an all or nothing platform – so we will receive the funds only if we raise the entire amount.
Your contribution will help lead us through the end stages of film production – sound editing and creating music, correcting the color, adjusting the titles, beginning the distribution launch.
Please share in the truth that beauty always recognizes itself. Be a part of completing a groundbreaking film on disability and sexuality. Visit us at http://sinsinvalid.org/.
What people say…
The world of enforced and embodied norms constricts all of us, regardless of where we identify on the spectrums of sexuality, gender, or ability. In this project, people with disabilities are engaging in the wholeness of our bodies and our sexualities. Visit us at http://kck.st/wgO4N5. When people experience our shows they are deeply impacted:
“I am moved beyond words, moved to an emotional state that I can’t quite explain. Thank you for making this space possible!”- audience member 2011
“You are brilliant and beautiful and help me remember that so am I. Thank you.” - audience member 2011
“What makes Sins Invalid so powerful is that it thoroughly succeeds artistically and erotically, separate from the impact of its political message. Sins Invalid challenges its audience to think about sexuality, beauty, and disability in new and expanded ways. But Sins Invalid is also, quite simply, a hot, arousing, sexually charged evening of thought-provoking, imaginative sexual entertainment that only happens to be entirely by and about people with disabilities.” - David Steinberg, SFGate
“One of the most powerful shows I have been to ever. The creativity and expression and depth literally took my breath away.” - audience member 2009
“Sins Invalid’s work is a vibrant necessity in this age of bland complacency. The art that is presented brings the intersectionality of race, gender, class, and ability and throws it in your face, forcing the viewer to come to terms with how these realities are not so different and yet so different for those with disabilities. And this is beautifully done with the erotic and the body.” - Phem Magazine
“Mesmerizing, thought provoking and hypnotic, erotic and humorously joyful, sad, hopeful intense and rebellious.” - audience member 2008
I’ll of course assume he’s completely ignoring the presence of autistic trans women
Because if autistic women are inconvenient for his theories about extreme male brains, autistic women who have absurd levels of distress over coercive masculinization are like… Yeah.
Brains: You can’t just arbitrarily stick genders on them.
(This is the guy who’s tests show that most women have male brains and who doesn’t think this is a problem SO I MEAN REALLY.)
Hell yes. My best friend is an autistic transwoman and so very “stereotypically feminine”. SBC’s tripe always reminds me of her, how very opposite his tripe she is.
Say, when is the Autism Women’s Network interviewing Simon Baron-Cohen on radio again? Someone should ask him about transwomen. I’m sure people must have asked him ‘bout ‘em before, but whatever drivel he replies with ought to be recorded.
Anyone want to volunteer to be the call in question asker? (Prefer if it’s a trans autistic btw…)
I DO know that he is/was supposed to be coming on the Autism Women’s Network Radio Show again SOON, if he hasn’t backed out. Unfortunately, it seems like he still hasn’t been scheduled in? I’ll have to talk to my executive director….
A Less-than-positive Review of John Elder Robison’s Latest Book
Response to the post about the CAFAB->Men and Autism article
[snipped earlier discussion]
The fact that there was a trans woman involved makes NO FUCKING DIFFERENCE when the results were such transphobic shit as “trans men are silly deluded girls who think that because they’re not pretty princesses they must be boys”. From her “warning”, it sounds like she fully believes that trans guys who are autistic or leaning towards autistic are not really trans, but just confused (much like many older trans people, both men and women, insist that younger trans people are just doing it to be trendy).
Fuck that - I was and always will be a pretty princess. And all my friends are girls.
I think this is the article.
This shit is transphobic AND ableist/anti-autism at the same time. What even…? Are trans guys now required to pass as neurotypical in order to access hormones?
I hate to say this, but I’ve heard stories of therapists specializing in providing sign off for people looking to undergo transition telling a person they had to stop doing certain things to get sign off- all of which were Autism related traits. (If you have an experience with this, please do submit. If you’d like to do so Anonymously, send us an Ask.)
One by one I’m going to discuss hurting someone, receiving hurt, dominance, and submission, and what engaging in each of those four things might do, mean, or bring up for someone who is disabled. Most of what I write will be in the form of questions because I’m talking generally, and even if I wasn’t there probably would still be no cut-and-dry meaning or effect or answer.
I’m sharing this here because it’s discussing something (kink) that is both a little bit queer itself as well as being something that people of all different types of queerness might or might not be interested in, placed in the context of disability.
What are your thoughts on this subject? If you are openly “kinky”, do you consider it another part of your Queer ID? How so? If not, what are your thoughts about it? Do you think your disability or you being Autistic influences your feelings or approaches to this area of sexuality?
image removed; description is under the cut (*WARNING* for ableism and nazi shit)
WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK IS THIS AND WHY WOULD ANYONE POST IT?
what the fuck is this flying fuckery on my fucking dash.
[image: animated GIF (link): cartoon of a person with light skin and long straight blue hair puking black stuff onto a plate of noodles. in the background is a shorter person with light skin and short spiky black hair looking starry-eyed and a somewhat taller person with light skin and straight bob-cut red hair face-palming.]
People…do know that Hitler also hated people with mental and physical disabilities? Or do they just not teach that or something?
I just—C&H is rarely the most appropriate webcomic ever, but this has gone FAR over the line. I do hope that the C&H crew realizes this.
Yeah, they usually just let it be a footnote- the only people who died in the holocaust we are actually taught about are the Jewish people. If you live in an area with a strong GLB presence (and maybe even a TQIA one) you might have learned about gay and lesbian deaths, too. But the truth is, that a lot of the horrors around those with disabilities didn’t grow up in Hitler’s Germany- American Eugenics was in full force long before that and some of the big names on Eugenics were American names. So in American history books, that the US had Eugenic policies that inspired Nazi policies is never addressed, and very rarely is even “those ones over there” people with disabilities mentioned because of this.
With DD/ID today, you would be shocked how few proponents of sterilization or aborting those who MIGHT have an ID or DD know the history behind their own opinions. Many of them would say things worthy of Privilege Denying Dude if you were to point out to them the connection to the Holocaust- and some might even say you proved Godwin’s Law. (GL= eventually if a convo is online long enough, even if an unrelated subject, someone will bring up Nazis/Hilter/the Holocaust. Particularly when a subject is UNrelated.)
reblogging for commentary. and this is not the first time Cyanide and Happiness have fucked up — like that shitty “stripper rain dance” one (*WARNING* — it’s as racist as you’d think, if not worse, although Adrienne K.’s commentary is great).
What do you all think about how two (or more) of our IDs are often erased when talking about the holocaust and Eugenics? Do you have a story about discussing this, in history class or elsewhere? History bits? Please share.
on being queer and autistic
“When I tell people I’m queer, it becomes a part of their idea of my identity. I mention my girlfriend, and a little light dings in their head to place me into the QUEER category of mental filing. They might be surprised or confused or alter how they interact with me (or not), and it might take a few further interactions for them to get that I mean queer in the broadest way and, yes, they can seriously still point out that cute boy and I’m not just humouring them when I agree.”
Full post is here: http://alternatelexicon.com/2011/04/01/the-very-next-day-was-my-birthday/